October 25, 2017 If you enjoyed this, please share:It’s almost trick or treat time, as evidenced in my neighborhood by the plethora of Halloween lights and decorations emerging on houses and porches. So, I knew it was time to make a trip to Costco for a giant bag (or two!) of Halloween “treats” expected at my front door in a few days. Trick Or Treat? My neighborhood is bustling with wonderful young families and children. So, last Halloween, rather than leaping from our comfy sofa each time the doorbell rang, my husband and I decided to grab the big basket of treats and plant ourselves in lawn chairs on the driveway in front of the garage door. It was a great vantage point to enjoy the camaraderie of neighborhood families stopping by and brief interactions from miniature princesses, superheroes and Oklahoma Thunder basketball players. Is there an “etiquette” for trick or treating? Absolutely! Using good “social manners” reflects well on children and adults, as well. An unplanned and unexpected result of our driveway setup: it was a perfect spot to observe trick or treat manners. Some great, some not so great! So, here are some Halloween trick or treat etiquette tips that will not “disguise” that mannerly person (you!) behind that Princess Leia or Batman mask! Courtesy Tips for Children Only approach homes where porch lights are turned on. This generally means this home is participating in the Halloween festivities. If the lights are off, it generally means these folks have opted out. They may be working a 2nd shift or just prefer not participating. So, do not ring the doorbell where the lights are off. Do remember to say a greeting, such as “Trick or Treat” rather than standing silently with your treat bag open. Even small children can be taught to say this simple greeting. Don’t dig through the treat basket for the “best” pieces of candy. And pick up only one item, not a hand full. Remember to say, “thank you.” They’re such simple words, but make a big impact, even if the treat is not your favorite candy. Avoid ringing doorbells after 8-8:15 p.m. or so. Many people need to get kids to bed and prepare for the work day ahead. A nice option for middle and high schoolers is to stay home to help pass out the candy. Tips for the Accompanying Adults Do remind your children of the above trick or treat courtesies. It’s fine to wear a costume, if desired, but not too spooky! When waiting at the sidewalk for your child to return from someone’s porch, do give a quick wave and “thank you” after your child receives a treat. Don’t carry a “treat bag” for an infant in arms or toddler too young to eat candy. This appears a bit forward, and we all know who the real recipient of these treats will be! Interested In Learning More? Use these good manners for a fun evening of Halloween trick or treating! If you are interested in any of my business or etiquette seminars please contact me or call me at 918.970.4400!